I would like to share a very interesting concept in this blog which I call as “I say, you say!” We have heard people saying, “be positive and the environment around you will treat you positively.”
It is interesting to find out how our action, body language, and timber of our voice affects the state of mind of the person with whom we are interacting. People tend to respond in the same state of mind as yours. Thus, it is in our hands to set the tone of reply we want to hear from the person standing in front of you.
‘The Secret,’ a book by Rhonda Byrne, talks about the relation between positivity and the universe. If you radiate positive energy towards the universe, the universe will show positivity towards you.
In my day-to-day life, I have learned to be calm and patient with everybody around me. One of the things I have learned related to human psychology is the way you speak and react would get reciprocated to you. For example, if you speak softly to the person in front of you, you would get a soft-spoken reply; if you yell, you would get an angry response. Likewise, if you want to try, you can ask a question singing and you would get a musical answer to it. At the beginning stages of my knowledge about this concept, I experimented it over every person I met and surprisingly, I found out it was explicitly correct.
Work pace is one of the examples. If you own a small company and if you want to optimize the use of time and energy, it is paramount to create an environment where the work pace is to the summit. If you are working in a slow and relaxed pace, your surroundings will automatically slow down. Instead, if you run around to get all the work done briskly, you would see the environment getting busy and working faster, ameliorating the efficiency.
Another example is when I am playing tennis. If my opponent is a good player with great shots and energetic ball returns, I would be energized to play with equal ardor. However, when I play with my younger brother, who is still an amature, I tend to get lazy and play leisurely. Thus, your action and energy get transferred and reflected.
It has been 3 years since I have started using this psychology to build healthy and happy relations with my loved ones. Not just my friends and colleagues, but this has also helped me cut fights with my younger brother. I literally dance in front of him to ask if he wants to study with me and he dances back to say NO! It took me a while to inculcate this into myself, but I have never heard anything other than laughter on my family dining table since then. Furthermore, I think this ability to understand and take hold of the human nature is one of the important skills you would want to have in your personality.